How To Boost Your Self Esteem and Love Yourself More

How To Boost Your Self Esteem and Love Yourself More

We spend a lot of time focusing on our relationships with other people, but we often neglect the relationship we have with ourselves. The way we view ourselves and our level of self-esteem affects all of our other relationships, as well as the way that we make our way through the world. If you have low self-esteem there are lots of things you can do to improve it and start loving yourself more:

• Make a list of your good traits. What things are you good at? What do you do well? What qualities do you have that your friends and partner like? Make a list of all of the good things about yourself, even if they are small. For example, you might make awesome pancakes and you might be a great listener. Write down anything you can think of. Keep your list and pull it out anytime you start feeling down on yourself.

• Revisit your past accomplishments. What things have you done in your life that you’re proud of? Think back to your childhood and of all of the things you’ve accomplished. Swimming badges, piano exams, honor roll, places you’ve travelled, etc. all count. You might think you haven’t accomplished anything, but when you think back and add it all up, you’ve probably done way more than you realize.

• Think of what you loved as a kid – and do it. What were your favorite things to play when you were a kid? Have you stopped doing them now that you’re older? Boost your self-esteem by re-visiting the things that you used to love. Take up art again or start playing softball again. The things we loved as a kid were things we did purely for fun, so stop focusing on what you should be doing and start doing something just because you want to.

• Spend time with fun people. If you’re trying to rebuild your self-esteem, surround yourself with people who are easy going and fun. Avoid people who are negative because they’ll only bring you down. Fun people will build you up, and hanging out with them will make you feel great and inspire you to continue to choose positive things in your life.

• Say something positive to yourself each day. Make it a habit, like brushing your teeth and look in the mirror and compliment yourself on something every day. It could be something as small as saying “Your outfit looks good today”. It will seem silly at first but you’ll get used to it and look forward to it. Compliments aren’t just for other people!

• Banish negative self-talk. We have so many negative thoughts throughout the day that we probably don’t even realize all of the nasty things we think about ourselves. Try to be more aware of your thoughts and stop yourself every time you start to beat yourself up in your mind.

• Set goals and reward yourself. One of the best ways to feel good about ourselves is to accomplish a goal. Set some goals for the short and long term and set out to achieve them. Have a reward in mind for when you reach them. For example, a short-term goal might be to get your resume finished and you could reward yourself with a new video game or a new accessory. An example of a long-term goal could be saving up to buy a car. You’ll feel great about accomplishing what you set out to do and you get a treat out of it to make you feel even better about yourself.

Overthinking Kills

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If you have a hard time turning off your mind or thinking too much about something that you shouldn’t really be thinking about, then you may be a victim of overthinking. 

Overthinking can cause you to be paranoid, because you start questioning someone’s motive or your own. It can cause you to rehearse past events and try to find meaning in them where none exists. It can cause you to become indecisive sometimes known as analysis paralysis. 

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Regardless, over thinking is not a good thing especially for your mental well being. Overthinking can make you feel depressed, paranoid and anxious.

Here are some tips to help you overcome overthinking:

1. Recognizing when you are overthinking. If you find yourself thinking way too much, then you may already be overthinking. Overthinking also tends to occur more during night time when we let more of our mind wander.

2. When you recognize that you are overthinking, you can use healthy distractions. For instance, read a book, watch tv, talk to a friend, listen to music or exercise. 

3. If you still find yourself thinking about the problem, then you may need to directly confront the issue. Sometimes the issue is so severe to us that no distractions can help and the only way for us to stop thinking about it is to find peace with it. 

4. If you don’t want to directly confront the problem because of whatever reasons, you can also write the problem out in a journal or talk to a confidant about it. Sometimes all you need is a place to keep your thoughts somewhere so that it doesn’t stay on your mind. 

5. If nothing helps, you can always seek a professional such a counselor. You can talk to them about your problems and they can keep it a secret while at the same time help you think through your problems. 

Tips on How to Move Forward

1. Moving forward requires one step at a time. You don’t just one day suddenly feel alright at where you are and not get pulled/pushed back. It’s a gradual buildup of how you feel and the product of your hard work. So if you feel good one day, ask yourself what is it that makes you feel good and keep striving for the thing that makes you feel good. If compromises are necessary, do it anyways. Strategically weigh the prices you have to pay for the future that you desire vs the having to feel bad at this moment. 

2. Leave all baggages behind. If you are waiting for someone or hoping that someone would turn around, don’t. Put a closure to it. If you must intentionally destroy all chances you have with that person, do it and say everything you need to say ‘good or bad.’ Just don’t linger on any expectations. If something is meant to be, it will be. 

3. Always smile and have faith in your actions. Never question yourself and if what you do is right or not. Just believe in yourself and realize that you’re human. If you’re making mistakes towards your objective, don’t sweat it too much. The outcome will be the same regardless of how many mistakes you make as long as you are striving towards that ending you desire. 

4. If you’re lazy or your work habit is a mess, start putting effort into things. Get in touch with the feelings of discouragement, unsatisfactions, and guilt for not reaching your goals. They are your callings. Listen to them, and use them to be the driving force of your productivity. Only productivity can make you happy. 

5. Forget everything else. Put the less important stuff aside. Try to not procrastinate. Be conscious of your habits and slowly replace them with something else. For example, if you find yourself watching Anime instead of studying, while watching Anime, think about your work behind your head. Eventually all you’ll be thinking about is work.

6. Start slow. Don’t immediately throw everything aside, start small by working towards making greater and greater sacrifices. For example, don’t immediately decide that you are going to stop hanging out with friends, or stop watching Animes, instead, slowly remove one thing at a time. 

7. Should the day come when you finally succeed, then you can rest if you want to. At least, you’ve already lived your life to the fullest and will not have any more regrets. You’ll be eternally happy and carefree. 

What to Do When Its Raining

Sometimes, we all dont like rain, we never appreciated rain. But actually, you can do lot of things when raining. 

1. Clean up your closet. This might be the best opportunity for you to give out your used clothes to charity and maybe shop for new ones.
2. Read a book. This might seem like a cliche’, but reading a book has always been considered fun and productive.
3. Gather the family and play board games. It will be a good way of spending quality family time.
4. If you’re alone, video games will do. If you’re not alone, then play video games with a partner or with your kids.
5. Call up some friends and have a simple house party. You can come up with a themed cooking and eating activity.
6. Watch a movie.Some people prefer to watch their favorite movies over and over to make them feel better, while others would like to watch random movies on cable. This will definitely make the rainy days more fun, especially when you spend it with the people you love.
7. Learn to cook your favorite meal. This only applies if you don’t know how to cook. Wouldn’t it be wonderful to be able to create and eat your favorite meal at any time without ordering or having someone else cook for you?
8. Bake cookies and other goodies. Doing this with loved ones is always better.
9. Go out in the rain and play like a kid.
10. Play the hippest dance music and dance the rainy day away.
11. Do crafts. It takes the stress away. You can do cross-stitch or simple scrapbooking.
12. Call or email people you haven’t been in touch with for a long time.
13. Enjoy a good cup of coffee, either at home or a nearby cafe.
14. Drive to the mall and do some window shopping.
15. Do online shopping.There are many things you can buy online.
16. Plan your next vacation by visiting travel websites.
17. Visit the nearest museum.
18. Visit the nearest library.
19. Organize your photos and photo albums. Make captions for each picture.
20. Plan a special dinner for the whole family to partake in.

and also, just spend your day curling in bed, with lots of blankets, confy pyjamas, socks, and lots of pillows. Just enjoy your day.

Fav Quotes From Books

Hi, i like these quotes they are so meaningful, and there are a few that are funny (for me) it is from my favorite books so yeah, but sorry because i posted a LOT about books because dont know what to post x

Enjoy:)

“The moon is a loyal companion.
It never leaves. It’s always there, watching, steadfast, knowing us in our light and dark moments, changing forever just as we do. Every day it’s a different version of itself. Sometimes weak and wan, sometimes strong and full of light. The moon understands what it means to be human.
Uncertain. Alone. Cratered by imperfections.” 
― Tahereh Mafi, Shatter Me


“Imagining the future is a kind of nostalgia. (...) You spend your whole life stuck in the labyrinth, thinking about how you'll escape it one day, and how awesome it will be, and imagining that future keeps you going, but you never do it. You just use the future to escape the present.” 
― John Green, Looking for Alaska

“I don't think he meant to kiss me," I said finally.
"What? Did he slip and fall on your mouth? Those things are known to happen.” 
― Jennifer L. Armentrout, Obsidian

“As he read, I fell in love the way you fall asleep: slowly, and then all at once.” 
― John Green, The Fault in Our Stars

“Loneliness is a strange sort of thing.
It creeps on you, quiet and still, sits by your side in the dark, strokes by your hair as you sleep. It wraps itself around your bones, squeezing so tight you almost can't breathe. It leaves lies in your heart, lies next to you at night, leaches the light out of every corner. It's a constant companion, clasping your hand only to yank you down when you're struggling to stand up. 
You wake up in the morning and wonder who you are. You fail to fall asleep at night and tremble in your skin. You doubt you doubt you doubt. 
do I
don't I
should I
why won't I
And even when you're ready to let go. When you're ready to break free. When you're ready to be brand-new. Loneliness is an old friend stand beside you in the mirror, looking you in the eye, challenging you to live your life without it. You can't find the words to fight yourself, to fight the words screaming that you're not enough never enough never ever enough. 
Loneliness is a bitter, wretched companion. 
Sometimes it just won't let go.” 
― Tahereh Mafi, Unravel Me

“In new situations, all the trickiest rules are the ones nobody bothers to explain to you. (And the ones you can't Google.)” 
― Rainbow Rowell, Fangirl

^so true tbh hahah


“Each day means a new twenty-four hours. Each day means everything's possible again. You live in the moment, you die in the moment, you take it all one day at a time. -Day” 
― Marie Lu, Legend

“We believe in ordinary acts of bravery, in the courage that drives one person to stand up for another.” 
― Veronica Roth, Divergent

“It's so strange how life works: You want something and you wait and wait and feel like it's taking forever to come. Then it happens and it's over and all you want to do is curl back up in that moment before things changed.” 
― Lauren Oliver, Delirium

“People like to say love is unconditional, but it's not, and even if it was unconditional, it's still never free. There's always an expectation attached. They always want something in return. Like they want you to be happy or whatever and that makes you automatically responsible for their happiness because they won't be happy unless you are ... I just don't want that responsibility.” 
― Katja Millay, The Sea of Tranquility

“We're not freaks, Tally. We're normal. We may not be gorgeous, but at least we're not hyped-up Barbie dolls.” 
― Scott Westerfeld, Uglies

“That's always seemed so ridiculous to me, that people want to be around someone because they're pretty. It's like picking your breakfeast cereals based on color instead of taste.” 
― John Green, Paper Towns

“What a slut time is. She screws everybody.” 
― John Green, The Fault in Our Stars

and my ultimate favorite,
“Becoming fearless isn't the point. That's impossible. It's learning how to control your fear, and how to be free from it.” 
― Veronica Roth, Divergent



this post might be too short, but who cares!
Thank you sooooo much for reading x 

4 Ways to Wear Ankle Boots

1.  Wear Ankle Boots with a Skirt or Dress

When choosing to wear ankle boots with a skirt or dress, it is important that the length of the skirt or dress fall at mid-thigh, to make the legs look slim and trim. Typically, the shorter the skirt or dress is, the longer the legs will look especially with a pair of black tights. However, wearing a dress or skirt that is long will make the legs look shorter. To make the legs look even longer, choose a stiletto type heel. The following are some stylish ways to wear ankle boots with a dress or skirt:

Wear high-rise ankle boots with a mini skirt or short dress. The higher the boot, the shorter the hemline should be.

2.Ankle Boots with Pants or Leggings

When wearing ankle boots with pants or leggings, it is important to remember black is slimming, lengthening, and flattering. Therefore, black boots should be paired with black leggings or tights. Jeans should be dark wash for a more figure forgiving look. When wearing ankle boots with pants or leggings, one needs just the right outfit to give the legs a long slim look. The following are some sleek styles for wearing pants or leggings with ankle boots:

Wear ankle boots with skinny jeans. When wearing with skinny jeans, be sure to tuck the skinny jeans into the boots and wear a tight top or loose blouse. However, if the ankle boots are tight fitting around the ankle, choose pants that meet right at the top of the boot so one doesn’t get that bunched up look.

3. Ankle Boots with Shorts

Wearing ankle boots with shorts may seem like a fashion no no, but in fact, it is a chic new look. Shorts and boots give a longer slimmer look to the legs, but one has to know what attire looks flattering. The wider the boot is around the ankle, the slimmer the legs look. The following styles will flatter the body when wearing ankle boots and shorts:

To show off some leg, a pair of cuffed shorts with a loose top style ankle boot will do the trick. To get an even longer leg look, stiletto heels make a more noticeable effect.

For a casual look, a pair of flat ankle boots with some cut off jean shorts can give a real cowgirl look. Try suede ankle boots to compliment the style.

4. Ankle Boots and Graphic Tees

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I will always love graphic tees because they are fun, and pretty. 

Easy Snacks Recipe

Hi! Ill be posting, easy snack/midnight snack recipe :) 
it is very simple, and low on budget.

1. Simple Tasty Meatballs

Ingredients:

• 200 gm boneless chicken
• 1/4th cup red lentils
• 1 large onion diced
• 3 green chillies,
• 1 tsp ginger and garlic paste
• 1 tsp meat masala
• 1 tsp turmeric powder
• Salt to taste
• Oil
• Flour

Method: 

Take the boneless chicken. Make slits in the meat. Add turmeric powder, meat masala and 1 tbsp mustard oil over the meat. Mix well. Leave aside to marinate for half an hour.
Add ginger and garlic paste and adequate salt to meat plus the soaked and washed lentils and grind the whole thing well in a mixer-grinder till it becomes minced well. Add the onion and chillies to the mixture.
Take the minced meat mixture, shape them in to small balls and roll it in the flour till it gets covered from all sides. 
Heat oil in a non stick pan. Deep fry balls till they turn golden colour. Serve hot with sauce.

2. Bread Roll

Ingredients:

• 1- bread - (any)
• 2- potatoes
• 3- salt (accordingly to taste)
• 4- red chilli powder ( according to taste)
• 5- coriander powder or garam masala (according to taste)
• 6- vegetable oil (to fry)
• 7- a small bowl of water

Method: 

1- boil potatoes.
2- peel the boiled potatoes and mash them.
3- add salt, red chilli powder and coriander powder according to taste.
4- sprinkle some water on the slice of bread and put the mixture of potato in it and close it completely.
5- fry it and serve it with various dips and sauces.

3. Simple Chocolate Mug

Ingredients:

• 2 tablespoons butter, melted
• 2 tablespoons water
• 1/4 teaspoon vanilla extract
• 1 dash salt
• 4 tablespoons granulated/caster sugar
• 2 tablespoons cocoa powder
• 4 tablespoons plain/all purpose flour

Method: 

1. In a mug melt the butter in the microwave then add the water, vanilla and salt. Whisk well with fork.
2. Add cocoa powder, whisk well. Add sugar, whisk well. Add flour, whisk well.
3. Microwave for 60 to 90 seconds. Depending on how gooey you want it. Careful not to overcook.
4. Enjoy the yummiest thing you can ever make in under 3 minutes in a microwave..

4. Cheesy Beanos

Ingredients: 

• 2 slices of bread
• A can of beans
• Grated cheese
• Butter

Method:

1. Heat the grill then place the toast under the grill until one side is toasted.
2. Heat the beans in microwave but not too hot.
3. Turn the slices of toast so the toasted side is faced down. Butter both slices of toast and place beans on the bread so it is all covered. Place the grated cheese on top of the beans.
4. Place the toast back under the grill until the cheese has melted keeping the beans on the toast.